My father died on the last Tuesday in February of 2004. It was somewhat unexpected. He had a myriad of health problems such as diabetes, high blood pressure, kidney failure and a subsequent transplant. He had survived pneumonia and several other ailments over the years, there were several occasions when we were told that he probably would not survive, but he always did. He woke up that Tuesday morning and told my mom that he didn’t feel well and that he was going back to bed. He never woke up. She went in to wake him before lunch and found that he had died in his sleep.
My dad’s name was Aubey Billy Jack Head. He never used Aubey, but I thought it was neat having three names. He was born on Sand Mountain in Alabama in 1933 to Gardy and Lucy Head, and yes it is Gardy not Grady. He was one of seven children, one of his siblings died as an infant. Gardy died when my dad was about five, right about the time that my dad’s youngest brother was born. My grandmother was left to raise the kids on her own and that was no small feat during the Depression. My dad’s oldest sister had gotten married and she helped my grandmother take care of the smaller kids, and dad’s oldest brother was able to get a job to help out as well. My grandmother moved down into Fort Payne and got a job at a hotel as a cook and washing clothes to support her family.
Needless to say my dad grew up poor. The family moved from Fort Payne to Summerville, Georgia at some point because the oldest brother had gotten a job at the mill in Trion. My dad dropped out of school at 15, he lied about his age and got a job in the mill as well. He worked there until he was drafted into the Army during the Korean War. Luckily for him, the treaty was signed to end the war while my dad was in basic training. He was sent to Europe and served as a driver for a general. He was fortunate enough to draw the assignment to drive Olivia de Havilland around as she was visiting the soldiers stationed in Europe in the 1950’s. For a poor boy from the south, he had many adventures and opportunities in the Army.
After he was discharged he came back to Summerville and went back to work in the mill. He met my mother in 1955. The story of how they met was always under dispute between my parents. He said that he and a friend pulled up to a local drive-in and my mom and her friend were in the car next to them. The dispute centers on whether she actually pulled the cigar out of his mouth and started smoking it. My mother denies it, he always insisted that it was true, the truth is probably somewhere in between.
They married in September of 1956. My father said they had to elope because my maternal grandmother faked a heart attack when they talked about getting married. My sister was born in 1957, my brother in 1961, and I came along in 1965. They built a house in Trion in 1961 and financed it with a VA loan. My dad stayed at the mill in Trion and spent his career there, working over 50 years all together. He was promoted several times and worked in customer service and sales. The last years of his career, he was responsible for selling the off-goods or seconds that were made. The mill produced denim mostly and he had a network of buyers that he would sell to on a regular basis. He became friends over the years with many of those customers and I remember getting graduation gifts and wedding presents from Baltimore, New York and other places from people that I had never met. I didn’t mind, however, they were always great gifts.
My dad was a smart guy despite not having much formal education. He was an avid reader and loved anything related to history. He and my mother always stressed the importance of getting an education. They never really got on to us about grades, but they wanted us to do our best. I think they both knew that a college degree would provide more opportunities for us than they ever had.
I mentioned in an earlier post that my dad had a colorful vocabulary. He cussed like a sailor and he had a temper that sat on ready at all times. He also had a big heart and sense of justice that I noticed from a very early age. My mother always took us to church, every Sunday we were there no matter what. My father never went with us. My mom said that early in their marriage my dad would go with her, but that my grandmother would give him a hard time. She was a religious woman, but her denomination worshipped on Saturday and she didn’t like the idea of him being a Sunday worshipper. After a few years he got tired of the fight and just stopped going all together.
My father was a good man. I mentioned that he had a big heart and a strong sense of justice. My sister became a teacher after college and would tell my dad about kids who needed a coat or supplies, or maybe they needed money to go on a field trip. My dad quietly gave the money to meet the need. He never wanted any recognition, but he knew what it was like to be poor and he was now in a position to help others. I learned a lot of things from my dad, but probably the most significant thing was that people matter. More than money, more than things, people and relationships matter. I saw him live that out in his life and it spoke to me more than any words ever could.
Like I said, I always knew my dad was a good man, but I was very concerned about my father’s spiritual well being. He believed in God, but he had never made a profession of faith in Jesus Christ. He was always supportive of us in our faith. He was present when I was commissioned as a Summer Missionary through the Baptist Student Union in 1985, and he was there when I was ordained as a deacon in 1993. He always supported us in our faith, but he never took that step for himself. When asked why, he would always talk about the hypocrites who went to church on Sunday and lived a very non-Christian life the rest of the week. My mother would say that he couldn’t worry about anyone but himself and that he was responsible for his life, not theirs. My mother shed countless tears and spent many hours praying for my father’s health and spiritual well-being.
In 1994 my father finally made a confession of faith and became a Christian. He was in the hospital, but it certainly wasn’t the worst situation in comparison to his other many ailments. He just said that God spoke to him and that he knew it was the right thing to do. My dad was always a big guy, and the pastor of the church asked if I would help with the baptism. It was one of the happiest moments of my life. Like my mother, sister and brother, I had also prayed many prayers for my father. I was more than willing to take part in this long awaited act of faith.
We all noticed a change in my dad. He cleaned up his vocabulary, he cooled his temper down, and he became very involved in his church. He began talking to his brothers about their relationship with God and told them about his experience. He became bold in his faith and we were all very thankful and aware that God does not give up on any of us.
I mentioned that my dad died on the last Tuesday of February. It was the day before Ash Wednesday that year. We had the visitation at the funeral home on the night of Ash Wednesday and several friends from my church, FBC Rome, left the Ash Wednesday service and came straight to the funeral home. Hugh Peacock, the Associate Pastor, was the first one I noticed who had the cross made of ash on his forehead. It didn’t occur to me upon first glance what it was, but as he got closer I became aware of the image on his forehead. Several others there who came to visit that night bore the sign of the cross on their forehead. Wow, what a message from God! In the midst of my pain at the loss of my earthly father, I was reminded of the gift from my Heavenly Father. I was more comforted in the fact that my dad was now at peace with my Heavenly Father.
Ash Wednesday marks the beginning of Lent. Lent is a time when the church begins to look toward the cross and the crucifixion and resurrection of Christ. It marks the forty days before Easter and in many denominations is a period when people “give up” something to remind them of the sacrifice made by Christ for our sins. Some people give up chocolate, others caffeine or maybe they try to break a habit. Some years ago, my pastor suggested that we not only give something up, but that we also try to add something beneficial. He suggested to commit to more prayer or Bible study, or perhaps to commit to helping someone every day. It occurred to me this year as I thought about my dad on this anniversary of his death, that both my dad and my God have taught me a lot about relationships and how they matter. My dad cared about people and he would always help out when he knew they had a need. My God cared about His creation so much that He became flesh and chose to live among us. Through Christ we have a clearer picture into the nature of God. “Love your neighbor as yourself.” “Peter, do you love me?...Feed my sheep.” During this Lenten season, as I remember my dad and I try to honor my Heavenly Father, I want to commit to strengthening my relationships. I want to pay attention to people, I want to listen to them and make them know that they are special. I want to tell the people in my life that I love them and I appreciate them.
“Lord God, thank you for my dad and the life that he lived and the lessons that he taught me. Thank you for my family and the people you have placed in my life. I have felt the warmth of your love and have received so many blessings through them. Help me to be a vessel of your love, your grace and your mercy to all that I encounter. Forgive me when I fail and please continue to work in my life. In Christ holy name I pray. Amen.”
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Humility
One of my favorite passages in the Bible is in Micah 6: 6-8.
6With what shall I come before the Lord and bow down before the exalted God? Shall I come before Him with burnt offerings, with calves a year old? 7Will the LORD be pleased with thousands of rams, with ten thousand rivers of oil? Shall I offer my firstborn for my transgressions, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? 8 He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
I have had this verse on my mind lately. Humility is not something we talk about very much. Our society teaches us that we are to be confident; we are masters of our own destiny! We are taught that if we work hard and believe in ourselves we can achieve anything; however, if we doubt ourselves we will surely fail. Humility is not a virtue; it is actually viewed as a weakness.
As Christians, how do we approach humility in a society that values individualism and looks upon humility as weakness? Can we be confident, successful and humble? Of course we can.
Humility in Christian terms is having a proper understanding of who we are in relation to God. On my own, I am not worthy of God’s love or the sacrifice that Jesus Christ made for my sins. I cannot do anything that would make me worthy. I cannot be good enough. I cannot be kind enough. I cannot do enough acts of charity or help enough people so that I would become worthy of Christ dying for me. It is only God’s grace and love for His creation that allows me to have a relationship with Him. Keeping that perspective keeps us from becoming too enamored with our piety or our own success. It also prevents us from being judgmental of others. Uh-oh! Here we go! Really, how can I sit in judgment of others if I am not the one responsible for the grace that I experience? I have a hard enough time trying to keeping myself straight to worry about others, but it is an easy trap to fall into. We like to judge how we are doing by comparing ourselves to others around us in every aspect of our life. The key to humility is to realize that there is only one comparison that matters: in my effort to be Christ-like, I come up short every time. As long as I remember that, I don’t feel too comfortable casting stones at others.
Does humility make me a less effective teacher, businessperson, leader, lawyer or banker? Is my confidence so shaken that I am unable to be successful in anything? I don’t think so; in fact I think humility can make one more effective. If I believe that God is my creator, then I also believe that the abilities and talents that I have are gifts from God. How I use them is part of my obedience and service to God (see the parable of the talents in Matthew 25). If I have talents and abilities, then God gave them to me for a reason and I have a responsibility to use them as He is leading me. Colossians 3:23 states that “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men…” Take that which God has given you and make the most of it. Not that we should boast or think highly of ourselves, but that He might be glorified. Humility is not easy. I need to pray and work at my relationship with God and others in order to keep things in the proper perspective.
“Lord God, help me to walk in humility. I understand that nothing I have ever done or will ever do will make me worthy of your love, your grace, or the many blessings you have placed in my life. Help me to live a life that would be pleasing to you. Help me to not be boastful, judgmental or self-absorbed. Help me to see others through the eyes of Christ; to see the needs, the pain, and the potential of those around me. Forgive me when I fail, and continue to work in my life. In the name of Christ my savior I pray. Amen!”
6With what shall I come before the Lord and bow down before the exalted God? Shall I come before Him with burnt offerings, with calves a year old? 7Will the LORD be pleased with thousands of rams, with ten thousand rivers of oil? Shall I offer my firstborn for my transgressions, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? 8 He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
I have had this verse on my mind lately. Humility is not something we talk about very much. Our society teaches us that we are to be confident; we are masters of our own destiny! We are taught that if we work hard and believe in ourselves we can achieve anything; however, if we doubt ourselves we will surely fail. Humility is not a virtue; it is actually viewed as a weakness.
As Christians, how do we approach humility in a society that values individualism and looks upon humility as weakness? Can we be confident, successful and humble? Of course we can.
Humility in Christian terms is having a proper understanding of who we are in relation to God. On my own, I am not worthy of God’s love or the sacrifice that Jesus Christ made for my sins. I cannot do anything that would make me worthy. I cannot be good enough. I cannot be kind enough. I cannot do enough acts of charity or help enough people so that I would become worthy of Christ dying for me. It is only God’s grace and love for His creation that allows me to have a relationship with Him. Keeping that perspective keeps us from becoming too enamored with our piety or our own success. It also prevents us from being judgmental of others. Uh-oh! Here we go! Really, how can I sit in judgment of others if I am not the one responsible for the grace that I experience? I have a hard enough time trying to keeping myself straight to worry about others, but it is an easy trap to fall into. We like to judge how we are doing by comparing ourselves to others around us in every aspect of our life. The key to humility is to realize that there is only one comparison that matters: in my effort to be Christ-like, I come up short every time. As long as I remember that, I don’t feel too comfortable casting stones at others.
Does humility make me a less effective teacher, businessperson, leader, lawyer or banker? Is my confidence so shaken that I am unable to be successful in anything? I don’t think so; in fact I think humility can make one more effective. If I believe that God is my creator, then I also believe that the abilities and talents that I have are gifts from God. How I use them is part of my obedience and service to God (see the parable of the talents in Matthew 25). If I have talents and abilities, then God gave them to me for a reason and I have a responsibility to use them as He is leading me. Colossians 3:23 states that “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men…” Take that which God has given you and make the most of it. Not that we should boast or think highly of ourselves, but that He might be glorified. Humility is not easy. I need to pray and work at my relationship with God and others in order to keep things in the proper perspective.
“Lord God, help me to walk in humility. I understand that nothing I have ever done or will ever do will make me worthy of your love, your grace, or the many blessings you have placed in my life. Help me to live a life that would be pleasing to you. Help me to not be boastful, judgmental or self-absorbed. Help me to see others through the eyes of Christ; to see the needs, the pain, and the potential of those around me. Forgive me when I fail, and continue to work in my life. In the name of Christ my savior I pray. Amen!”
Monday, February 8, 2010
God the Parent, Part 2
Have you ever heard the story about the newlyweds who were cooking their first meal together? The young bride takes out the ham they are going to cook and proceeds to cut off both ends before she puts it in the pan. The groom asks why she did this, his mother never cut off the ends of the ham. The bride replies, “Oh silly, that’s how you are supposed to cook a ham. At least that’s the way my mom did it.” Now they are still newlyweds mind you, and they really don’t want to have a fight over a ham. The bride decides to call her mom, only to hear her say that she cut off the ends because her mother always did it that way. The bride hangs up and calls her grandmother. Grandmother says “I cut the ends of the ham off because my pan was always too small!”
What does this have to do with God and being a parent? I think it is a great lesson in our responsibility to Model the Way for our children. God modeled the way for us to live our lives through the life of Jesus Christ. When we look for guidance on how we are to treat each other or how we are to relate to God, we look to Jesus for the example. How do treat others, “love your neighbor as yourself.” How do we approach the approach God in prayer, see Matthew 6 for the prayer Jesus taught the disciples to pray.
As parents we have a responsibility to model the way for our children. The moment you realize how closely your kids are watching you is a terrifying moment. I think I first realized this when my daughter was about three. She was angry about something and was trying to tell me something with her teeth clenched, her eyebrows furrowed and was using a staccato rhythm in her delivery. I was equally angry and then I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. Wow, she was mimicking my behavior exactly. Throughout many aspects of her life I see glimpses of my wife and myself emerging in her personality and behavior. What do I want to teach her and model for her?
1. Loving God and serving Him is above all else.
2. Your parents and God will always love you!
3. You can’t really love anyone else until you love yourself.
4. You are an awesome person created by God for a special purpose.
5. The way we treat others speaks volumes about who we are.
6. Prayer will get you through a lot.
7. Nothing worth having comes easy.
8. Helping others is more important than collecting things.
9. You can achieve anything you set your mind to accomplish.
10. Boys can wait!! (I don’t trust boys. I used to be one and I do not want them hanging around my daughter.)
Modeling the way we live our lives was so important to God that He became flesh and lived among us. If it is that important to Him, maybe I should take it more seriously and try to be a better role model for my daughter and others around me.
That is it for this week. I will have a new post next week.
What does this have to do with God and being a parent? I think it is a great lesson in our responsibility to Model the Way for our children. God modeled the way for us to live our lives through the life of Jesus Christ. When we look for guidance on how we are to treat each other or how we are to relate to God, we look to Jesus for the example. How do treat others, “love your neighbor as yourself.” How do we approach the approach God in prayer, see Matthew 6 for the prayer Jesus taught the disciples to pray.
As parents we have a responsibility to model the way for our children. The moment you realize how closely your kids are watching you is a terrifying moment. I think I first realized this when my daughter was about three. She was angry about something and was trying to tell me something with her teeth clenched, her eyebrows furrowed and was using a staccato rhythm in her delivery. I was equally angry and then I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. Wow, she was mimicking my behavior exactly. Throughout many aspects of her life I see glimpses of my wife and myself emerging in her personality and behavior. What do I want to teach her and model for her?
1. Loving God and serving Him is above all else.
2. Your parents and God will always love you!
3. You can’t really love anyone else until you love yourself.
4. You are an awesome person created by God for a special purpose.
5. The way we treat others speaks volumes about who we are.
6. Prayer will get you through a lot.
7. Nothing worth having comes easy.
8. Helping others is more important than collecting things.
9. You can achieve anything you set your mind to accomplish.
10. Boys can wait!! (I don’t trust boys. I used to be one and I do not want them hanging around my daughter.)
Modeling the way we live our lives was so important to God that He became flesh and lived among us. If it is that important to Him, maybe I should take it more seriously and try to be a better role model for my daughter and others around me.
That is it for this week. I will have a new post next week.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
God The Parent- Part 1
I distinctly remember the feeling when my wife and I left the hospital with our newborn daughter. “Are they really going to let us leave with this thing? Surely, somebody is about to stop us and ask for a certificate or a license of some sort, something that proves we have a clue on how to raise a kid! Wait, nobody stopped us! We actually made it to the car (with the newly installed infant car seat) and no one even blinked when we walked out the doors. What kind of place is this? Didn’t that doctor realize that I was clueless on how to care for a child?”
How do we learn how to raise a child? The obvious answer is that we model our behavior on our own parents. Parenting is a learned behavior, we either imitate our parents or decide what behaviors we want to avoid. I was very fortunate, my parents were great. I always felt safe and I knew that I was loved. I knew the rules, they were fairly consistent and my true needs were always met. We quickly learned the difference between a “need” and a “want”, and I must say that I had many of those “wants” met as well. My parents did believe in “whuppin’s”, however, and my dad meant business. I am not saying I didn’t deserve them, my brother and I got into quite a bit of trouble by fighting and breaking things. I frequently entertain friends by relaying stories of my childhood. We heard our parents say things like this; “If you kids are going to kill each other, I wish you would go outside and do it!” or “My gosh, I can’t even come home and sit down to dinner without having to whip somebody’s a##.” My dad had a colorful vocabulary; he became a Christian later in life and cleaned up his vocabulary by the time my daughter was born.
My wife and I have had long conversations about parenting and have tried different techniques at various stages of our daughter’s life. She is 13 now and we are heading into brand new territory. So I sit back and think about how we should continue on this parenting journey. I have recently realized that, like so many things in life, God has provided us with many great lessons on parenting by the way he has dealt with humanity throughout history and the way I see him working in the world today.
Over the next few weeks I want to explore these examples of how God models the way for us to parent our children. I want to begin by looking at the parenting traits we can see examples of through scripture and then explore some of them more deeply. This list will by no means be exhaustive; I don’t think we could do a complete list in a few weeks. It will be some of the characteristics that I think are most applicable.
The most obvious example of God’s parental characteristics is Unconditional Love. We know from John 3:16 that God loved each one of us so much that he gave his only Son to be an eternal sacrifice for our sins. There were no preconditions on this act of love, Romans 5:8 says that “…God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
What would this type of love between parent and child look like? I think it would mean that we love our kids for who they are. Our love as a parent should not be based on our child meeting certain conditions. Just as God loves us even as we are sinners, we should love our kids without them having to meet a set of conditions. You don’t have to look far to see families where a parent pushes a child to play a certain sport or to be a certain way in order to receive love and affirmation. There is nothing wrong with encouraging a child to be their best, but our love should not be conditional.
Love does not have to equal approval, however. Just as God is displeased and does not approve of many of the things we do as sinful human beings, as parents we may not always approve of the choices or actions of our kids. That doesn’t mean we should stop loving our kids, however. The story of the prodigal son is a perfect example. The father does not approve of the younger sons actions, but when the son comes to his senses and returns home, dad greets him with a hug and a kiss. Just as God loves us as sinners, we should love our kids at all times.
A second characteristic of God the Parent is Guidance. One thing that is true of all kids is that they like to know the rules; they need to know what the boundaries are. Anyone with a two year-old has seen this. Two year-olds are great at testing what the boundaries are and they are just as curious about the consequences. God provided guidance to the children of Israel through the Ten Commandments and the Laws of Moses. As parents we need to provide structure and guidance for our kids. Pop cultural wisdom says that rules are restrictive and that they inhibit creativity. Kids actually like structure and want to know what the rules are. Some parents prefer to be more like a friend instead of an authority figure. Growing up is hard and kids don’t always know what is best. As parents, we should draw from our own experiences and use our judgment to help guide our children through childhood and adolescence. My child has friends, but she only has one set of parents and I need to help her by being the best parent I can possibly be. That doesn’t mean that they will always listen and act as I would like (See Unconditional love above), but my responsibility to parent doesn’t end when I get upset with her choices.
One of the best things we can do for our kids is spend time with them. That is how we build a relationship with anyone. Many of us think that we are too busy to sit down and talk with our kids, and we are especially too busy to listen. But like any relationship, giving someone face-time demonstrates how much we value that relationship. How does my daughter know that I care about her if I never give her any of my time?
Come to think of it, it is that way with God. I need to give more time to God as well. If I value my relationship with Him, I should spend time with Him. And just like with my daughter, I need to spend more time listening.
That’s it for this week. I will keep digging and praying for something more to add next week.
How do we learn how to raise a child? The obvious answer is that we model our behavior on our own parents. Parenting is a learned behavior, we either imitate our parents or decide what behaviors we want to avoid. I was very fortunate, my parents were great. I always felt safe and I knew that I was loved. I knew the rules, they were fairly consistent and my true needs were always met. We quickly learned the difference between a “need” and a “want”, and I must say that I had many of those “wants” met as well. My parents did believe in “whuppin’s”, however, and my dad meant business. I am not saying I didn’t deserve them, my brother and I got into quite a bit of trouble by fighting and breaking things. I frequently entertain friends by relaying stories of my childhood. We heard our parents say things like this; “If you kids are going to kill each other, I wish you would go outside and do it!” or “My gosh, I can’t even come home and sit down to dinner without having to whip somebody’s a##.” My dad had a colorful vocabulary; he became a Christian later in life and cleaned up his vocabulary by the time my daughter was born.
My wife and I have had long conversations about parenting and have tried different techniques at various stages of our daughter’s life. She is 13 now and we are heading into brand new territory. So I sit back and think about how we should continue on this parenting journey. I have recently realized that, like so many things in life, God has provided us with many great lessons on parenting by the way he has dealt with humanity throughout history and the way I see him working in the world today.
Over the next few weeks I want to explore these examples of how God models the way for us to parent our children. I want to begin by looking at the parenting traits we can see examples of through scripture and then explore some of them more deeply. This list will by no means be exhaustive; I don’t think we could do a complete list in a few weeks. It will be some of the characteristics that I think are most applicable.
The most obvious example of God’s parental characteristics is Unconditional Love. We know from John 3:16 that God loved each one of us so much that he gave his only Son to be an eternal sacrifice for our sins. There were no preconditions on this act of love, Romans 5:8 says that “…God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
What would this type of love between parent and child look like? I think it would mean that we love our kids for who they are. Our love as a parent should not be based on our child meeting certain conditions. Just as God loves us even as we are sinners, we should love our kids without them having to meet a set of conditions. You don’t have to look far to see families where a parent pushes a child to play a certain sport or to be a certain way in order to receive love and affirmation. There is nothing wrong with encouraging a child to be their best, but our love should not be conditional.
Love does not have to equal approval, however. Just as God is displeased and does not approve of many of the things we do as sinful human beings, as parents we may not always approve of the choices or actions of our kids. That doesn’t mean we should stop loving our kids, however. The story of the prodigal son is a perfect example. The father does not approve of the younger sons actions, but when the son comes to his senses and returns home, dad greets him with a hug and a kiss. Just as God loves us as sinners, we should love our kids at all times.
A second characteristic of God the Parent is Guidance. One thing that is true of all kids is that they like to know the rules; they need to know what the boundaries are. Anyone with a two year-old has seen this. Two year-olds are great at testing what the boundaries are and they are just as curious about the consequences. God provided guidance to the children of Israel through the Ten Commandments and the Laws of Moses. As parents we need to provide structure and guidance for our kids. Pop cultural wisdom says that rules are restrictive and that they inhibit creativity. Kids actually like structure and want to know what the rules are. Some parents prefer to be more like a friend instead of an authority figure. Growing up is hard and kids don’t always know what is best. As parents, we should draw from our own experiences and use our judgment to help guide our children through childhood and adolescence. My child has friends, but she only has one set of parents and I need to help her by being the best parent I can possibly be. That doesn’t mean that they will always listen and act as I would like (See Unconditional love above), but my responsibility to parent doesn’t end when I get upset with her choices.
One of the best things we can do for our kids is spend time with them. That is how we build a relationship with anyone. Many of us think that we are too busy to sit down and talk with our kids, and we are especially too busy to listen. But like any relationship, giving someone face-time demonstrates how much we value that relationship. How does my daughter know that I care about her if I never give her any of my time?
Come to think of it, it is that way with God. I need to give more time to God as well. If I value my relationship with Him, I should spend time with Him. And just like with my daughter, I need to spend more time listening.
That’s it for this week. I will keep digging and praying for something more to add next week.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
First Things
For some time now I have felt like God has been calling me to share some thoughts and ideas with others. At first I thought this to be a crazy notion, a streak of arrogance rising up within me. As I prayed about this, however, I continued to feel that it was the right thing to do. Maybe this is a tool that can be used to glorify God in some way, maybe this is just a journal for me to think through some things...I am not really sure what it is.
This is my pledge: I will commit to write something every week until I feel lead to stop, or until my wife tells me that I am bringing shame to the family name. I promise not to be too preachy, and I will try to inject the wit and humor I think I have. (I think I am the funniest person I know!)
I don't know if anyone will actually read this, but at least I will feel like I have been obedient to my God and Savior.
John
This is my pledge: I will commit to write something every week until I feel lead to stop, or until my wife tells me that I am bringing shame to the family name. I promise not to be too preachy, and I will try to inject the wit and humor I think I have. (I think I am the funniest person I know!)
I don't know if anyone will actually read this, but at least I will feel like I have been obedient to my God and Savior.
John
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